Too
Much Time With Ex is Too Much To Look Past
Dear
Harlan,
I am having trouble dealing with the amount of time my current
partner spends with her ex. Although they had not been dating
for the past six months, she slept with him on occasion. She
often calls him for rides to places, goes out to eat with
him and routinely cancels dinner plans. He is constantly telling
her how lonely he is and how much he misses her. My anxiety
over the situation reached a boiling point when her aunt and
cousin were in town and she blew me off to have dinner with
him and her family. I have expressed my feelings to her, and
she says that she is not going to stop seeing him. I don't
want to have to ask her to not see him. This would make me
look like a jealous person and possibly drive her and her
ex closer together. I like her, but I don't know how much
I can handle.
Questioning Questionable Partner
Dear
Questioning,
If you knew you could date other woman, would you date this
one? The answer is NO WAY! It's absurd that your girlfriend
blows you off to be with her ex. It's even more absurd that
you put up with it. Millions of partners tolerate the intolerable
because they don't think they can do better. Well, you can
do a lot better. If you do become her new ex, maybe she'll
find the time to be with you. She seems to like her exes.
