Ex-Fiancee
Shares Sex
Addict's Web of Deceit
Dear
Harlan,
Your
response to the wife who was concerned about her husband's
porn addiction was lacking some very important information.
Has she looked at what he has been viewing and the sites that
he goes to? I was oblivious to the things that were on the
Internet until I started paying closer attention to what my
ex-fiance was Googling. I, too, was OK with him looking at
adult sites until I found out that he had several relationships
with women whom he would spend hours chatting with (webcams
on, clothes off). One of them was his ex-wife. He put up several
profiles on adult Web sites looking for sex. One thing he
would do was quickly close the screen when I entered the room.
He would delete history items and had secret e-mail accounts.
He would wake up in the middle of the night to go on the computer
while I was asleep to get his "fix" of porn. His sex addiction
hurt me more than he will ever know.
Wife Who Knows
Dear
Wife,
I'm
so sorry you were hurt so badly. Secret
passwords, secret e-mail addresses, limiting a partner's access
to a computer, locking the door while online - these are all
signs something might be up. That said, before investigating
what a partner is Googling and ogling online, there's something
to be said about having good reason to track his moves. To
secretly investigate for no good reason is no good reason.
Clearly, you had good reason.
